Everything is energy. Energy can flow or not. In this blog you will discover exactly what a shadowside/shadow self and shadowwork is, what kind of negative influence it (unconsciously) has on you and how shadowwork helps you to live fully.
You have all kinds of experiences in your life. How do you deal with this? Experiences (including intense, possibly deeply painful/ traumatic ) experiences can or cannot be placed and processed fundamentally. If this is not the case, your personality can (unconsciously) do its best to prevent you from perceiving/feeling this pain, for example by (unconsciously):
This energy then becomes part of your shadow self/shadowside. This can be energy in the form of emotions and thoughts, for example. Below you will find some examples of thoughts, emotions and other examples that may have to do with a shadow self / shadowside.
These feelings/ emotions may be related to your shadow self:
These kind of thoughts may be related to your shadow self:
Shadowsides may have originated in this life (and also passed down through ancestors ), but also have a connection to other times such as unfinished past lives .
Carl Jung gave prominence to the shadow archetype. For example, he said :
In an energetic sense, a shadowside is (unconsciously) ‘stuck’/it is (unconsciously) blocked energy. For example, some people feel that they are trapped in pain. The more you don’t let the energy of your shadowsides flow, the more this will (in the long run) come up and will demand attention in various areas. Below you will find some examples of how this can possibly manifest itself on different levels:
Shadowwork means shining light (consciousness) on your shadow and fully accepting, loving and integrating the energy of your shadow.
By doing shadowwork and integrating your shadow you can develop yourself. For example, you transform limiting beliefs. This has numerous advantages. For example, you experience more balance on a physical, emotional, mental, relational and spiritual level and more:
There are all kinds of exercises around shadowwork. There is no one exercise that always works for everyone. This depends, among other things, on your age, gender and degree of sensitivity.
About 1 in 5 people is a highly sensitive person and recognizes themselves in these HSP traits. HSP are extra open to energy and can (unconsciously) experience the energy of their/other people’s and collective shadow more intensely compared to non-HSP.
For HSP who want to get started with their dark side, it is important to choose a method that is pure. For example, prevent yourself from taking over energy from others when you start working with your shadow. Don’t let someone else (such as through a book) ‘talk you into’ a shadow, but go on an inner investigation yourself and observe for yourself what is right for you.
The tips below will help you work with and integrate your shadow.
Many HSP fear their own greatness; that can prevent you from letting in more light and flow. To what extent do you want to stand in your light, live your light and increase your consciousness? This choice has a lot of influence on your shadow. The more you let your light flow and you expand your consciousness, the more you can gain insight into yourself (including your shadow) and get to know yourself better.
Your shadow is not ‘bad’, but has a lot of growth potential to offer you. Your shadow wants the best for you. Make a choice to see your shadow as a friend, rather than an ‘enemy’.
Create and expand your consciousness. For example, realize in your waking life what you find less nice sides of yourself. What do you rather not face about yourself/what do you dislike in relation to yourself? Realize that this energy does not flow optimally and that you can work with it in a way that suits you.
Shadowwork can be quite challenging. Many people prefer to run away from it, or take it a little / half way. This leads to no/hardly any results. Be brave and make this choice to go for it (possibly with the help of a professional); then you will get the most and best result.
During the day many people try to suppress their dark side, for example by being busy all the time and/or using narcotics (such as drinking alcohol).
Your unconscious and shadowside shows itself through dreams. Dreams (including nightmares ) are not ‘accidental’, but for a reason. In the night your shadow rises. A nightmare is the culmination of a dark side.
Many people prefer to blame the cause of the nightmare (such as a monster) on their anxiety/problems. They cannot deal effectively with fear /problems in their daily lives and in dreams and, for example, prefer to run away from it/close their eyes to it. They don’t want to face the fact that they (unconsciously) have created their own shadow / blockages (which can cause painful feelings) and can solve this. That’s a missed opportunity. You can also learn to deal effectively with fear/problems and, for example, investigate what a nightmare says about yourself (and your shadow)/what message it carries/how this can be healed on a deep level.
Do you want to discover, integrate and (nightmares) transform/heal yourself on a very profound level? Don’t you shy away from a possible confrontation with yourself? Do you really dare to face everything? Are you stuck / have you already done a lot in the field of personal development / high sensitivity / paranormality, but do you feel that you are in a vicious circle and do you want to break it?
Then work with your subconscious through lucid dreaming. That is the most direct and purest way to make contact with your unconscious and shadow. You can discover your shadow in lucid dreams and from there also let light (and consciousness and love) shine on it and also integrate / transform it. To be honest, this is not suitable for everyone, it takes quite a bit of guts and courage. Many people choose the easier way; they stay in the role of victim and emotions with charge and prefer to ‘blame’ external factors for their nightmares/shadow pieces.
Note: I do not recommend shadowwork with ‘ordinary’ (non-lucid) dreams and consulting dream interpretation books and the like. This method contains a different type of (less clear) consciousness and is not so pure compared to the shadowwork with lucid dreaming. For example, dream interpretation books contain the energy of the relevant author, which (without you consciously realizing it) can be at odds with your own energy/could be counterproductive. Shadowwork with non-lucid dreams is in my opinion many times less effective / usually does not help you very much in my view. In practice I see that it rather takes HSP away from themselves (and their spiritual essence), and does not help 100% to get closer to Yourself (your spiritual core).
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